First: We have performed weddings for a number of pregnant brides. We don't have a problem with that.
But we do have concerns -- actually, one concern. For us, the only question that really matters here is whether the couple really want to be married. Or let us re-phrase that: If the bride was not pregnant, would you still want to get married?
We know that there is a tradition of couples choosing to get married in order to "give the child a name." But we are very uneasy about that. We believe that if that is the only reason for getting married -- noble though it may sound -- it may begin to wear thin after a year or two, or maybe even sooner. If you do not love each other enough to have gotten married without the responsibility of pregnancy hanging over your heads, then -- without that necessary love -- your marriage is not likely to succeed.
And we would advise the two of you to find another solution -- whether if be adoption or abortion or something else. But don't bring a child into a loveless marriage.
But...
If the two of you were already planning to be married (and the pregnancy came as a surprise)...
Or...
You had not quite reached the point of deciding to be married, but now you have thought it over and talked it over, and you are sure that, even though it's coming up a bit sooner than you would have preferred, you really do want to be married -- to commit to spending the rest of your lives together...
Then we will be pleased and honored to help you plan a wonderful wedding ceremony. Give us a call (or e-mail). Let's talk.
