We want to help you incorporate the important message that the whole purpose of getting married in front of -- and among -- your families and friends is that they are important to you -- these are the people who have been important in your lives in the past, and they will continue to be important in your life together in the years to come, so they are important today as well.  This message needs to recur throughout the ceremony, in a number of different ways. (This is the "integration" part.) 

   First we acknowledge it when we first greet the guests on your behalf, and affirm to them that their presence here today is important.

   After the two of you have exchanged your vows, we like to turn to the guests and point out to them that, although the two of you are primarily responsible for the success of your marriage, still you want and need the continuing love and support of all your friends and family members.  And we ask them: "Do you affirm your continuing love and support in the years to come?" And the guests respond with a rousing, "WE DO!"  Guests seem to appreciate being asked to put their love and support into words, and bridal couples are glad to hear in words what they otherwise could only assume from the fact that the guests came to the wedding.

   In addition, we help you to express this message throughout the ceremony by letting friends and family take part in the ceremony -- by

         doing readings,

         offering brief testimonials,

         participating in the lighting of candles

                    or presenting flowers

                    or whatever special sub-rituals the two of you have selected.

The message communicated by all of these seemingly small parts should be that your wedding includes -- and needs -- everyone that you have invited.  Of course, only a few will actually participate, but the feeling needs to be -- and can be -- that everyone that you love and care for is an important part of the success of this special day.  (And isn't this your feeling? And isn't this the message you want to convey?)

  

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